Low income & no respect...

My daughter called me today crying that a doctor has disrespected her. Asking her crazy questions like, are you doing drugs, why did you have so many kids, I can't help you go to another doctor or are you a drug addict because her body has grown immune to some of her pain killers. Or having to pee in Dixie cup at the doctors office or being told, I could be some where else on a Saturday rather than seeing you. I guess that's what happens when your low income. Just a little back ground for all of you who wonder. My daughter chose not to abort any of her children, she works (or a least she did before all this other crap happened in her life). She has support from their fathers and she loves them more than some mothers that I see that have everything. She wants to open her own business, be a photographer. She takes her kid to, basketball, volleyball, tutoring even when she doesn't feel well, which is almost everyday. Doctors Chourdy & Alvi and all you high and mighty educated idiot doctors, ceo's and anyone who has ever disrespected my daughter or anyone who is just trying to do the best they can with what they have. Who are you to look down on and judge others. How many abortions did some of you that are reading this have. How many of you take care of your children. I have been asked why are you having a fundraiser don't you own a record company. Just cause you have music out there does not mean people are buying. Trust me people if I had it she would have the best care in the world. One day I will, and I will remember those who snug their noses up at me and her. If you don't want to give, don't give. Everyone deserves to be treated with respect, young, old, black, white, pink, purple or yellow. It shouldn't matter where you live how many kids you have, your background rich or poor. That's part of what is wrong with the world today, we don't respect each other as much as we did "back in the day". I don't have to like what you do, what you say, who marry who you love, or who you worship. But respect is something we should have for each other and we don't. We wonder why things are so screw up? My prayer, is that we find a doctor who will treat her regardless of her background or income, someone who will listen to her story and give a hand up not a hand out. I'm not sure if there's someone out who will. Trying to find someone who will listen or care is like trying to find a needle in a hay stack.

My daughters hands....I Remember

I looked at my daughters hands today so tiny and so petite, and healthy. It's hard to believe that a year ago she was in ICU recovering from heart surgery. I remember them telling me how she would look, but nothing prepares you for that site. I remember how cold and dry they were, I remember the blankets the tubes the wires and the nightmares she would have. I remember her asking, why? I remember the day she came to my house to stay, I remember the day she went home, as I sat on her bed and cried. I see her scar and I wonder why, only God knows. I looked at my daughters hands today and I was glad to see they were okay.

One year later 30 year old coronary by pass patient still struggles...

Seems there is no end to the pain one has to go thru when your a low income heart patient. You can't get the medications you need, no one listens to you and a they label you a drug addict because your system has grown immune to pain killers. I am always at a loss of words when my daughter calls me, I often cry because I cannot help her as much as I would like to. So I pray, I pray, that someday the drug company who manufactured the drug that caused her rare heart condition pays. I pray that she gets her family back together, I pray that we find a doctor who will not push her to the side as if she does not matter, I pray that she has peace and is able to heal mentally and physically from the pain that she has been thru. I pray, I pray, I pray, this WILL happen one day.

Amazing Young Lady

If there were a word that would describe my daughter it would be Amazing. The last year has been filled with nothing but setbacks, heartbreak, suicide, eviction, crazy baby daddies and some substandard doctors. She is a very strong young lady and even though she’s going thru these things in her life she finds time to worry about other people and their children. It all started with a simple headache which led to heart surgery and so on and so on, you can read about it in my previous blogs. We’ve tried in every way to tell her story to the media, but I guess it just wasn’t interesting enough. But balloon boy, a young girl who can’t stop sneezing, and all the other unworthy stories our media thrust down our throats are. Don’t get me wrong, I know that other people have their heartaches and frustrations but this is mine, fight for yours. In spite of all the crap that’s been tossed at her she keeps right on going. Even though the children live in separate households for the moment, she continues to be that “old school” mother that so many of our children lack these days. Her days are often filled driving completely around the city trying to get them to basketball & volleyball tutoring, and all the other activities they’re involved in. But those of us who are believers know that God gives you double for your trouble. All things that seem bad work out for our good.
What’s really ironic, the man who issued the eviction of her family and is being honored for the “Great” things he has done for the community. Of course our local newspaper printed that story, but not her’s, go figure
There is a fund set up for her and her family @ www.maylayent.com if you would like to help just go to the blog spot page. Thank you.

Living with pain & Uncertainty

On November 4th 2009 my daughter went in for her second surgery. She went thru so much this year and I wanted to write about how I thought she felt. But as with so many times before she tells her story best. A fund has been set up for her and her family if you would like to donate. http://www.maylayent.com
Since she wrote this her and her children have been evticted from their home

Hello,

My name is Tikus and I need your help even if it only means telling my story to someone. My children and I were evicted from our home on August 31, 2009. Our local electric company Com-Ed issued me $9,400 electric bill. I have tried to explain to them that I do not owe this bill and that someone stole my identity and had service was put in my name, at another residence. A local charity organization offered me 1200 dollars towards the bill, if I could get the bill down to $1200! Now the bill is no longer the big issue me and my children are homeless.

Please keep in mind that I am a recent heart patient. I was prescribed the drug Imitrex for a migraine and it damaged my heart and I had to undergo open heart surgery 6 months ago. 3 of my children have asthma, and my 2 year old daughter has Vesicoureteral Reflux Grade 4. I am still recovering from the surgery and some complications. I will need more surgery in the coming months because I am not healing properly. I wrote several letters to our Federal Housing Authority asking them to reconsider my eviction and was told I had to put my kids father on the lease in order to get the lights on in his name. However our local office refused and I was evicted. I have been so many different stories and been through so many ups and downs. I really don’t understand why the drug dealers and gang banger can still reside there when they are obviously breaking the lease and other who get the police called on them or there company. If HAJ was to enforce the rules (like they selectively did in my situation) then no one would reside in the Fairview Homes. This eviction has taken a toll on me and my family. My children are very saddened and depressed that we no longer have a place call home. I have to drive around and take them to the park during the day just too pretend that everything is alright. I was recently diagnosed with Lupus I spent most of last week in the hospital because I fainted while test were being ran. I have not healed properly because of all the stress Com-Ed and The Joliet Housing Authority has put me thru. I am in constant pain and can’t get a good night sleep. I take 12 medications a day and sometimes they do not help. I just want to be able to lay my head down sometimes and not worry about weather or not I have to move, or if the sheriff is going to come to my home.

tikuskhudar@gmail.com

Heart Aches-Never Giving Up!

My heart aches every time my daughter hurts from her heart surgery. I can't take away her pain and I wish I could. That is why I am never giving up. So that she can have better health care and doctors who don't look down on her. I will keep on praying and keep believing that things will get better for her. Thru it all she is a very strong young lady, she takes care of her children and others. She has lost her home, and has had to put all her things in storage, and even though things look grim she still finds humor. I will keep reaching for the dreams that have been given me even though it does get hard sometimes. I know that God has a plan for my life and if I don't give up things will happen. I see a better life for my family therefore I have no choice but to keep going. Even when the numbers look bad, and people say no! I have to keep pressing towards my goals. God did not give me visions to sit on them and he never told me it would be easy. If you have a vision keep at it "LIFE" will happen, and on pretty regular basis, you can't stop it. Don't let people in your eardrums don't listen to people who are not where you want to be. Don't listen to people who say, this is how it's done, create your own way. Most importantly remember, IF SUCCESS WAS EASY--EVERYBODY WOULD BE!